25 years ago today, my wife Lisa and I had our first date. Months earlier, we met each other the old fashioned way, at one of Baltimore’s landmark watering holes…the “Cat’s Eye Pub”. But as they say, life got in the way. It wasn’t until the Saturday evening in late October, as I was heading into my elevator for a night on the town. Sparks flew as I came face-to-face with the same strikingly good-looking woman (shown above) that I had met earlier that winter. As it turns out, she was exiting the elevator to attend a party for two of her friends who just happened to live on my floor! Several days later, we met for sushi. Minutes of easy conversation flowed seamlessly into hours; the rest is history. Over the years, I’ve learned more than a few lessons that has enhanced our relationship in good times and in times of stress. That said, here are five simple things that guys can do to enrich their love in the time of COVID-19 (and beyond).
- Start the day on the right foot: Whether it is unloading the dishwasher, feeding the dog, making coffee, etc.-whatever eases her burden will go a long way toward contentment.
- Touch base midday: Check in each day with a simple text to see how her day is progressing.
- Do something together each day: The after-dinner walk is always a great activity weather permitting, but even doing puzzles/word games together are fun. Our favorite these days is NYTs “Spelling Bee”.
- Express gratitude: This might seem obvious, but expressing gratitude for the time you spend and things you enjoy doing together, never grows old…even as we all do.
- Laugh together: Take the 4 things mentioned above, add up their significance and you arrive here. Laughing together helps to sustain and nourish relationships. While it might be more difficult to easily engage in laughter during this time of crisis, it is also a powerful de-stressor that may improve your overall health and spirits (more to come).
Michael Miller, MD is Professor of Cardiovascular Medicine at the University of Maryland School of Medicine in Baltimore, Maryland USA. His latest book is “Heal Your Heart: The Positive Emotions Prescription...” published by Penguin Random House.